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My Marriage Secrets by Aliss Cresswell

Rob and I celebrated 28 years of marriage this month. It got me thinking how I’ve had people tell me “Everything’s OK for you, you’re a ‘woman of God’ with everything going for you, full of faith and seeing miracles every day.” They seem to think that I have it easy somehow and I don’t have problems that ‘normal’ people have. And it’s true that I am married to a wonderful man who I wouldn’t trade for the world, but we’ve had our share of difficult times.

There’s the time that our baby daughter died and then a few years later our business went into liquidation and we had to lay off staff. There’s the time that, despite working hard, we were in so much debt that the bank cut up our credit cards, our account was empty and we had no food. There’s the time that the Lord asked me to give up my career, then He asked us to give up our dream home. One time He asked us to give all our savings away.

Just like most people, we’ve had our ups and downs over nearly 30 years of marriage, and been let down by people we’ve loved, but one thing is certain: God has never let us down. He is so faithful and good and His love really is everlasting. You can trust Him with your life!

For those of you who wonder how couples can remain married after many years in this crazy world, here are a few things I’ve learned along the way: FORGIVE, FORGIVE, FORGIVE! Both of you will do stupid things at some point or let the other one down somehow. You may as well decide now – choose to forgive straight away; don’t let it fester. It isn’t always easy, but the sooner you can do it the better. Oh and then try and forget it. Don’t play the scenario in your head any more. There’s no point. It’ll only make you miserable and bitter.

Another thing: Find something to laugh at together every day. Have fun and enjoy your life together. Don’t take everything so seriously. And don’t forget to let the other one know how much you love them – by words and deeds, as often as you can.

Never worry about money. What may or may not happen. Don’t let having no money stop you from doing everything the Holy Spirit tells you to do. But, we’ve learned from experience not to buy anything on credit. Enjoy the simple things.

And I suppose the main thing has to be ‘Keep the main thing the main thing’ – Jesus as number one in your life together. How people manage without Him, I really don’t know. Well, I guess they don’t!

So, here’s to all you who haven’t given up, whether married or single, but who are still persevering through life’s storms, to all the overcomers who are still going strong, no matter what is happening around you. “Do not throw away your confidence (boldness and courage); it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.” (Heb 10:35)

This is a picture of me and Rob the year we got married. And we’re still very much in love almost 30 years later.

By |2019-01-04T06:28:30+00:00December 21st, 2016|Blogs by Aliss|14 Comments

About the Author:

Aliss Cresswell is an international speaker, business woman and miracle worker, training and equipping in the supernatural realms to impact the world with the love and power of the gospel. Aliss and her husband Rob are based in Chester, UK. They head up MorningStar Europe and have two children. Her first book 'A Diary of Miracles' is inspiring many to share the good news of Jesus Christ and heal the sick wherever they are.

14 Comments

  1. Kathy Walton December 22, 2016 at 10:09 pm - Reply

    Congratulations Rob and Aliss.Thankyou for your inspiring and truthful words Aliss.Very timely and relevant to me at this time.Blessings,
    Kathy.

  2. Peter December 24, 2016 at 11:41 am - Reply

    Just Wonderful!

  3. Mizué December 25, 2016 at 1:00 am - Reply

    ✨Merry Merry Christmas to you Aliss and Rob.🎄🎉
    Thank you very much for the Gift of beautiful, genuine, heart warming and the core piercing words, Aliss.💝 It touched me so deep to ask Holy Spirit to pray with me for my complete forgiveness, for all bitterness in this life inside and outside of me and so as entire of humans, to Jesus Christ who died for us more than any time before on this Christmas morning.

    Please pray, Sisters and Brothers, for us on another side of planet, the Far East, to keep on growing in Him and Father to bring The Kingdom of Heaven on the earth with you all in Europe and all other continents together, in Jesus’s Name. ✨👑✨

  4. Sonja Ohlmann December 29, 2016 at 4:22 pm - Reply

    What a great advice to end and start the year!

  5. Deanna December 31, 2016 at 12:58 am - Reply

    Congratulations! My husband and I just celebrated our 23rd wedding anniversary, this month. I’m so glad we made it a point, to stand by each other, through the valleys of life. I wouldn’t have it any other way! God bless you and Rob, in the coming years.

  6. Patti Moys January 5, 2017 at 1:37 pm - Reply

    DEAR Aliss and Rob. Love your honesty, transparency, beautiful trusting hearts, humility, grace and love. You shine like the stars on a clear frosty night. No wonder our loving Papa is entrusting you with much. Love that you’re different, that you broke the mould in so many ways and opened the way for other radicals. You’re ‘Beautiful Outlaws’ (John Eldridge) like Jesus! Blessed to share the journey with you. Patti & Andy xx

    • Rob & Aliss January 15, 2017 at 12:21 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much Patti – we receive it! Much love to you and Andy x

  7. Birgit January 13, 2017 at 9:04 am - Reply

    Thank you for your words, Aliss. Tremendous encouragemen! My husband and I have been married for 25 years. Both of you, Aliss and Rob, thank you for cherishing your marriage – a white sailing boat in the midst of a dark and stormy ocean, unwaveringly sailing towards the Light.

    • Rob & Aliss January 15, 2017 at 12:23 pm - Reply

      Bless you Birgit – may your marriage continue to go from strength to strength too!

  8. Rizalyn Bolasco February 2, 2017 at 5:55 pm - Reply

    Really a great post, Aliss 🙂 Thank you. I am remembering this not only in marriage later but right now. God bless you and Rob!

  9. Paul Wilcox February 13, 2017 at 10:17 am - Reply

    Sue and I have been married for 45 years this month. We got married February 19 /1972. We have been in ministry since we that day. We have had our ups and downs, but we are still praying, preaching , and praising God.

  10. Geraldine February 23, 2017 at 8:39 pm - Reply

    ….And you still look so beautiful 30 years later. Thank you for sharing.

    • Rob & Aliss February 24, 2017 at 12:37 pm - Reply

      That’s very kind! Bless you too Geraldine

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